Leadership Lessons on Connecting
A brief review of the book by John C Maxwell, Everyone Communicates Few Connect
The ability to connect with others begins with understanding the value of people. –John Maxwell
This post is a review of John Maxwell’s book, Everyone Communicates Few Connect. The quote above is a great summation of what John is looking to get across to his readers. Whether you find yourself talking to big audiences, a small group, or even simply one-on-one, you’ll find great, practical tips on improving your ability to connect with people in a way that they can truly understand and act on what you are saying. Here are some highlights:
-Connecting is the ability to identify with people and relate to them in a way that increases your influence with them.
Think about just that statement. What if you could communicate and identify with people in such a way as to increase your ability to influence them in a positive way? Could you see that helping you improve your family relationships? How about your work relationships? Every relationship has the potential to improve if we are looking to really make a connection with the other person.
-The best leaders are always excellent communicators.
Do you believe that? Have you ever worked with a leader who was a poor communicator? I have and it’s not much fun! The people being led need someone who can help them understand the vision because if they can’t understand the vision, they can’t help in fulfilling the vision. If you are a leader, you owe it to yourself and those you lead to improve your ability to communicate and connect effectively.
-Everybody is in a hurry, but that prevents most of us from connecting with others effectively. If you want to connect with people, you need to slow down.
This is perhaps the biggest lesson I’ve needed recently. People don’t care how busy you are. They don’t care about how important you think you are. Yes, your time is valuable, but to truly connect, we need to see others as valuable and as worthy of our time. To slow down and have a meaningful conversation with someone speaks volumes to them and it says a lot about you as a leader.
Everyone Communicates Few Connect, is a book that will benefit employers as they seek to connect with employees. It will benefit parents who seek to connect with their children. It will benefit people who speak to large groups like pastors and teachers. While the title is correct in acknowledging that few connect, the reality is that we all need to connect as we communicate. You can order John’s book from my web site by clicking here.
If you would liked to be coached in how to improve your communication or are interested in attending or hosting a seminar on this topic, please visit my John Maxwell Team web site at www.johnmaxwellgroup.com/davejochum.
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